Kumpenda mtu siku zote utakuwa mkweli kwake hata kama yeye mwenyewe hapendi ukweli wako! As much as I Iove Zari, but I have to tell her this beater-truth! Kuwa Zari kwa hili umekosea sana!
Kwanza nianze kwa kusema simsapoti Diamond kwa udhalilishaji wake anao wafanyia wanawake kila siku! Hii ya Zari ni series ya matukio mengi ambayo amewafanyia wanawake ambao wamekuwa kwenye mahusiano naye.Amegeuza wanawake ndio mtaji wake wa kuongeza nguvu kwenye kazi zake! Which is very very wrong! However, despite all the evilness he has done, when comes to this issue ya kumdhalilisha Zari, personally I kinda understand where his pain is coming from! But again it doesn't justify what he did.
Kwanini nasema Zari amekosea? Ni kwasababu moja kuu ya kuamua kufanya udhilishaji kwa baba wa watoto wake bila kufikiria kuwa the real victims here are her own children! Tendo alilofanya Zari linamuweka level moja na Diamond, yani hakuna tofauti kati yao and two wrongs can't make it right! ..Kitendo cha Zari ku-move on na maisha yake ni kizuri sana! Tena sana! Nampongeza kwa hilo. Lakini kitendo cha yeye kuleta mwanaume mwingine kwenye nyumba ya mwanaume mwingine ni kukosa heshima sio tu kwa Diamond kama baba wa watoto wake bali pia kawakosea heshima watoto wake!
Zari, The Bosslady
Ule mji ulinunuliwa kama mji wa familia.That’s a place where her children as long as they live they will always remember and call it home! Home is small sanctuary, Zari has dishonored her children sanctuary! Hivi unajua ipo siku watakuwa wakubwa na sidhani kama watakuwa so impressed with their mom decisions! Haswa Tiffa, unajua jinsi watoto wakike walivyo na baba zao, Mungu atupe uzima kushuhudia yajayo!..Sijui kama Zari anajua anachofanya ni kosa au ndio maisha ya u-celebrity yamemuingia kwani hii sio mara ya kwanza kufanya hivyo. Tunaona hata alipo achana na marehemu Ivan Ssemwanga alikua anamleta Diamond kwenye nyumba ya watoto zake! Na marehemu hakufurahishwa na hili! ?? wanasema malipo ni hapa hapa duniani eeh! So Diamond got what he deserves!!.. Inajua mimi nashindwa kuelewa sijui ni Usabato wangu au ujaluo ndio unanifanya nishindwe kuelewa hii celebrity lifestyle!
Hivi wanawezaje kuleta mtu mpya kwenye nyumba au chumba ulichokuwa unatumia na your Ex-girlfriend / boyfriend? Nashindwa kuelewa haswa kwa wanawake! Majasho ulioweka kwenye makochi na mwanaume mwingine ndio hapo hapo unamleta mpenzi wako mpya ? Dah! Mie sielewi hii lifestyle! Labda ushamba umenizidi can’t think right ?♀️?♀️
Diamond ni mwanaume mshezi tu (sorry to say that) lakini hapa Zari kampa sababu na nguvu ya kumdhalilisha kwa kitendo cha kuleta mwanaume mwingine kwenye nyumba yao ambayo walinunua kwaajili ya familia. Ndio maana nimesema naelewa hasira za Diamond japo sifurahii alicho kifanya! Hii imekuwa ni desturi yake kudhilisha Exs wake toka wakina Penny, Wema n.k wote kawafanyia huu ushenzi! Ila amini usiamiani Tanasha anatmnyoosha Diamond wewe weka macho yako utayaona!
Mama Tiffah, the Bosslady
Kama kweli Zari anataka amani na kuishi maisha yake bila bugudhi yoyote basi Zari, you need to move to your own house, period! Let those men who desperately need you move to your house ili wakikuletea ujinga unamwomba aondoke kwenye mji wako. Lakini kitendo cha kuendelea kuishi kwenye mji wa wanao ambao baba yao kawanunulia haitakupa uhuru ambao unautaka! Just get your own place hata kama ni kubaya kama kwangu lakini ni kwako! Ni chakwako hakuna wakukwambia kitu! Please!
Halafu, I don’t know about you Zari maybe because you’re living that “celebrity lifestyle” but a man who dishonors his fellow man’s home like that?! Ain’t a man for me! Because it comes down to his morals and ethics! I hope he won’t turn around to be like the one you just dumped or even worse!..Hapa ndipo Tanasha kawazidi, unaona ametaka nyumba mpya kabisaaa ambayo hakuna Ex-girlfriend yoyote wa Diamond amewahi kulala wala kufika hapo! Msichana wa Kijaluo akili kwa kichwa ?? Nani anataka kulalia vitanda au kukalia makochi yenye majasho ya mikosi ya mtu mwingine? ?
Anyway, just prepare for the worst and hope for the best ?? I saw somewhere you said you are about to say ‘I do’, my advice to you is take your heart with you but don’t forget your brain!! And prayer is key to every battle! Otherwise wishing you the best in everything you do! ❤
Reposted from @dinamarious – Leo nimeamka kichwa kiko mbio maana zimebaki siku 4 tu niwe nawe katika Maisha Class Seminar.
Lakini nimemkumbuka rafiki yangu mmoja wa toka udogoni.Hatuonani sanaa ila tunaongea sana kwenye simu.Nikakumbuka namna walivyokuwa wakiishi maisha mazuri sana.Wao ni miongoni mwa watu wa kwanza wazazi kuporomosha mijengo huku Mbezi beach.Miaka ya 90 wana hadi boat ya kucruz kwenda visiwa hivyo vya bongoyo sijui mbudya ambavyo sie ndio twaenda leo.
Dina Marious; Mtangazaji, Mfumbuzi na Mkurugenzi Mkuu wa Dina Marious Coconut Oil, Founder of Mwanamke wa Shoka and Kitchen Party Gala
Mama yao aliwazaa mapema sana na baba yao akafariki mapema pia.So walilelewa zaidi na mama.Mama alikuwa na pesaa alikuwa mrembo sanaa na alikuwa na marafiki wengiii mno.Na pia alikuwa mzuri wa sura na wa roho kujitolea kwa marafiki na ndugu sanaa.Wadogo zake kama watatu aliwawezesha kwenda kuishi nje.Yeye safari za nje ya nchi kama sijui kitu gani.Party za babakyu na marafiki safari na marafiki za kula bata nyumbani kwake palikuwa hawakauki watu.
Yule mama alikuja akaanza kuishiwa akaanza pia kuumwa aliugua kwa muda kidogo na kwa wakati huo rafiki yangu na mimi tupo kidato cha pili.Ndugu walikula kona,marafiki ndio usiseme.Alibaki yeye na watoto wake tu na hadi anafariki alimfia mwanae huyo shoga angu mikononi hivi akimhudumia maana ndio wa kwanza.
Dina Marious; Mtangazaji, Mfumbuzi na Mkurugenzi Mkuu wa Dina Marious Coconut Oil, Founder of Mwanamke wa Shoka and Kitchen Party Gala
Kuna mengi yalitokea sanaa lakini hili jambo huwa silisahau.Maana mie ndio nilikuwa shoga ake namna ndugu zake walikuwa wakimfanyia nilishuhudia kwa macho.Na huwa namkumbuka sana huyo mama na sasa nimekuwa mtu mzima ishu hiyo huzunguka sana kichwani kwangu.
Je marafiki waliotuzunguka ni wa aina gani?una marafiki kweli au una wapambe?Ni wangapi katika mafanikio tunakuwa na marafiki wengiii ambao kiukweli wapo hapo kwa manufaa yao?Wapo na wewe sababu una nafasi fulani,wadhifa fulani kupitia wewe mambo yao yatanyooka?Kwa sababu una mkono wa kutoa labda utatatua shida zao,utasikiliza hofu na nyakati ngumu wanazopitia. Utawalisha,utawanywesha,utawapa pesa,nguo,viatu inshort unarahisisha maisha yao.Ngoja pesa ikate ndio wa kwanza kukusema umefulia na kukukimbia. Ngoja cheo/nafasi uliyonayo ipotee ndio utawajua walimwengu au wali nyama!Sitasema sana ila Mungu atujaalie watu sahihi katika maisha yetu.
“When you meet a person with means, a person that is well-off you think is successful that you always wanted to be; don’t go there asking for money” Hayo ni maneno yake Comedian na TV host Steve Harvey kwenye Oprah Master Class. Master Class ni show ambayo watu wengi waliofanikiwa katika nyanja mbali mbali za maisha wanaelezea mafanikio yao kwa undani zaidi toka walivyokuwa wadogo mpaka walipo fikia. Changamoto zipi walipata, vipi waliweza kuvumilia, kumudu hizo changamoto, na hata kufanikiwa bila ya kukata tamaa.
Unapopata nafasi ya kukutana na mtu au watu ambao unawaangalia kama “role mode / icon” katika maisha yako usiwaombe pesa waombe wakuelimishe nini walifanya kufikia hapo walipo. Watu wengi wapo wepesi wa kuomba pesa kwa mtu aliyejaliwa kuwa nazo kwa ajili ya kujikimu na hiyo shida aliyonayo. Nautakuta muda mwingi shida hiyo haiishi ni kaituliza tu kwa muda. Hii yote nikwasababu wengi tunapungukiwa hekima ya kujua kuwa ni kheri mtu akupe elimu ya maisha ya nini alikifanya mpaka kufika hapo ili uone kama na wewe unaweza tumia njia hiyo kufikia malengo yako au kujikwamua kutoka sehemu moja kwenda nyingine. Au utakuta wengine tumepingukiwa hekima ya kuona mafanikio ya watu ni maovu mbele zetu nakuanza kutafuta njia ya kumuangusha bila kujua kuwa anguko lake ni maafa kwako pia. …….Hivyo tuwe waelevu kama nyoka na wenye hekima kama Solomon ili tuweze kujifunza kutoka kwa wengine haswa ambao tunaona wana tija katika maisha yetu.
Pale watu wanapokukatisha tamaa wewe piga moyo konde usiwasikilize. Kwanza mimi kwa experience yangu binasfi watu wengi wenyekukatisha watu tamaa ni watu ambao hawajiamini na pia hawapendi kuonekana kuwa wao wameshindwa katika kufikia kile wakitakacho hivyo hamna la zaidi zaidi ya kupiga makelele ili uwe muoga. Wakati ukweli wanatamani wangekuwa na ujasiri kama wako. Utaona wanakuja na maneno mengi ya kejeli ikishindikana wataingilia personal attack “hajaolewa”, “mnene”, “hana nywele”, “mbeba mabox” yani ukishaona mtu anaenda kwa personal attacks jua maumivu yamemuhelemea ??
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Nasiku hizi social media, basi watatafuta kila event au tukio lenye viongozi waende kupiga picha ili warushe kwa Facebook / Instagram basi tu ufikirie kuwa there really happy and making it, wakati rohoni wanatamani wawe na kipaji au nafasi kama yako. ?? Wanasaikolojia wanasema mara nyingi watu wanao ongelea wengine vibaya muda wote huwa kuna mambo ambayo hayopo sawa kwa upande wao sasa kwasababu hawataki watu wajue huo upande wao hauwapendezi, basi dawa inakuwa ni kugeuza attention kwa wengine! Na huo ndio ukweli! Wewe usikate tamaa na mapicha yao! Nawala usiache mashauzi yao yasio na kichwa wala miguu yakuumize au yakutoe kwenye malengo yako.
Mimi nilivyoanza hii blog yangu nimetungiwa uzushi wa kila namna; ooh huyo muhuni anatafuta mwanaume, huyo FBI, huyo kada wa CCM (utafikiri walishaniona na kadi ya CCM au nimevaa gwanda la CCM ??), mara anatafuta umaaharufu, mara mkabila, mdini, yani maneno mengi mno wengine wakadiri hata kwenda kwetu kuchunguza maisha ya kwetu nakuja kuongea kwenye magroup yao. Mara kazi yake kudhalilisha watu. Eti huyo anagombania mali za wazazi wake ?? Wengine wakazunguka kuwaambia watu wasiweke picha zao kwa hii blog. Yani hayo yote walifikiri nitaacha kublog!! Lakini nipo hapa and I’m here to stay! Mimi najua ninachofanya na ninako kwenda hivyo sijali. Waliokua wanasema mimi kazi yangu ni ku copy and paste ndio hao hao wanakosa raha kwani wanatamani niwaweke humu kwa blog yangu nami hata habari nao sina ?? Ni maumuvi makali sana wanapata. Wewe songa tu, wakikwambia huwezi wambie wewe ni nani hata useme hivyo!
Kitu kingine usiamini kila rafiki. Yani ukiona mtu ambaye ni rafiki yako anachukia maendeleo au mafanikio ya mwingine achana na huyo rafiki mara moja. Kwani inamaana wewe ni rafiki yake Kwasababu haujamzidi kimaendeleo lakini siku ukitaka kunyanyuka atakuwa wakwanza kukuangamiza! Niamini nimeyaona!
Siku zote kuna mtu mmoja ambaye atakuelewa na ambaye atakuwa yupo teyari kukusaidia kufikia malengo yako. Mungu huwa hamtupi mja wake! Kama nipesa basi huyo mtu anaweza kusaidia, kama ni mawazo yanini ufanye ili ufanikiwe basi huyo mtu atakuwa yupo tayari kutoa ushauri. It means that person believes in you and truly cares about you! When it looks like nobody cares trust me someone is out there who really cares about you! Muda ukifika Mungu atamleta kwako. Usikate tamaa!
Hicho kichwa cha ujumbe / somo la leo nimetoa kwenye ule wimbo wa ‘Yamoto Band’ lakini sipo hapa leo kuzungumzia huo wimbo wala band. Nimeyachukua tu kwasababu yameendana na ujumbe wangu!
Unasema humpendi mtu fulani (labda tuchukulie Zari, the Bosslady) lakini anafungua FEKI AKAUNTI ya social media kila siku haipiti hata masaa sita bila wewe kuangalia ame post nini?! Wewe unakichaa na ninakuita mwendawazimu!! Haiwezekani mtu mwenye akili zake timamu anayejitambua akaishi maisha ya kujidanganya na kujiumiza hisia zake mwenyewe!! Wewe lazima utakuwa punguani!! I’m sorry, but no thanks!
My twin sister and I
Hivi unajua ni ngumu kiasi gani kuishi maisha ambayo yanaumiza hisia zako? Kuishi maisha yanayo kupa hasira na chuki na watu wengine tena ambao hata huwajui undani wao zaidi ya kile unachokiona kwenye social media! Sasa tabu yote hiyo yanini? Ni kitu gani kinakufanya unaishi maisha yanayo kutesa? Kumfatilia mtu kwa kila kitu afanyacho hiyo ni zaidi ya ajira? Na kwenye ajira kuna mapato mtu anatakiwa kupata baada ya kazi ngumu, sasa wewe ni mapato gani unapata baada ya kumfatilia? Maana sio tu unapoteza muda wako, bali pia umetumia fedha yako kulipia internet, umeacha kufanya jambo lingine ambalo kwa namna moja ama nyingine lingekusaidia kuona mbele zaidi, yote hayo hukujali ukaamua kumfuatilia mtu usiye mpenda?! Halafu bado utatoka hapo unapoteza muda kumsengenya na wendawazimu wenzako ?? Wonders shall never end!
Mimi binafsi sina muda wa kumfuatilia mtu ambaye ananikwaza, yani sikufungulii account fake hata mara moja nakupa block nasonga mbele! Embu nawe jaribu hii njia ninayo tumia mimi huwenda ikakusaidia. Hakuna haja ya kufungua account Feki kumfatilia mtu usiye mpenda! Maisha ni mafupi sana sasa usipotaka kuwa wewe katika hualisia wako ukaishi maisha yako sasa angali unapumua lini utaishi na watu wakakujua kua huyu ni fulani?!
Kamwe kataa kuishi chini ya kivuli cha mtu mwingine! Life is too short to blend in or to be someone else! Be real! Be you! We only live once!
Beyonce sang it well “if he liked it he should have put a ring on it”! Basi ndivyo Mtangazaji maharufu toka Morning Star Radio ajulikanaye kwa jina la Maduhu alivyo fanya, he put ring and sealed it before God on Sunday April 7th, 2019.
Ndoa hii TAKATIFU ilifungwa katika kanisa la Wasabato la Nations Of Praise liliopo ndani ya jimbo la Houston, Texas inchini Marekani siku ya Jumapili majira ya saa kumi jioni saa za Marekani. Mnaona neno “Takatifu” hapo juu ☝️ nimeweka kwa herufi kubwa na wino mwingi eh?! Nikuwakumbusha walevi na “mashakunaku” kuwa “alicho kiunganisha Mungu mwanadamu asikitenganishe”!! Wale walevi wasiyo na haya huyu ni mke wa mtu muogopeni! Na wale mashakunaku wenye macho juu juu kama tunguli za mchawi nawakumbusha huyu ni mume wa Sule peke yake hachangii na mtu wala hamkodishi tafuteni wenu! ?? kama nawaona mnavyo nisonya ???
Ndoa ilifungwa inchini Marekani kwasababu Bibi harusi yeye ni Mmarekani mwenye asili ya Kitanzania. Ambapo kule Tanzania anatokea maeneo ya Upareni. Bwana na bibi harusi kwa furaha wenye nyuso za tabasamu baada ya kula kiapo kitakatifu! Wapambe walikuwepo! Walipendeza sana. Kwamara nyingine naomba niwapongeze sana Mr and Mrs Maduhu kwa kufunga ndoa takatifu! Wamesema wanaotaka ndoa za “mkeka” nyie fanyeni tu lakini sisi tunakwenda kula kiapo kitakatifu mbele za Mungu wetu aliye umba Mbingu na dunia! Mbarikiwe sana na nawatakieni furaha na amani isiyo na kikomo ??
**Shukrani zangu za dhati ziwaendee wadau wote waliotuma hizi picha kwenye lile group la “Harusi tunayo”. Mbarikiwe sana ??**
Katika maisha niliazima ujue kuwa hapa duniani uliletwa kufanya nini (what is your call)! Na ukisha jua madhumuni ambayo Mungu amekuleta kufanya hapa duniani inakuwa ni wajibu wako. Siku zote kazania kutimiza wajibu wako. Nimesema “wajibu” wako kutimiza kwani kuishi bila kutimiza wajibu wako ni dhambi! Kila mwanadamu mwenyewe utashi wa Mungu ana wajibu wa kuishi kwa kutimiza wajibu wake lasivyo anakuwa hajakamilisha the purpose of his / her living! Find what you have been called for, your calling will be your passion; and we only start living when we do what we’re passionate about otherwise you will be just surving! There’s no good in just “surving” in life! Mama Igogo (juu pichani) is living her best life! Pursuing her passion baada ya miaka mingi ya kujitolea kusimamia na kuongoza shule ya kanisa la Wasabato Temeke sasa ameamua kufungua shule yake ya watoto wadogo (shule ya awali) pamoja na kituo cha kuangalia watoto (a day care center) ili kutimiza kile anacho amini kuwa ndio wito wake (her calling) hapa duniani. Ni shule ambayo imesajiliwa kihalali kabisa ipo maeneo ya Yombo Vituka, inawalimu walio hitimu uwalimu na uzoefu mzuri kabisa, wafanyakazi ambao wamesomea saikolojia ya watoto na wamefanyiwa uchunguzi wa background zao kwa umakini kabisa hivyo mzazi usihofu kwani watoto wako wapo kwenye mikono salama kabisa! Wote mnakaribishwa sana.
“Ukiomba mvua lazima ukubali kukutana na tope pia, hiyo ni sehemu ya mvua. Jana imepita hakuna ajuaye kesho, kitu pekee ulichonacho ni SASA ishi kutumia sasa kwasababu huna uhakika na kesho. Stay present.”
Vumilia Sassi: Mwalimu na Mjasilia mali Pic by @pixelspro_films Blazer @validcollection #machingawakiluo
Nimeupenda sana huo ujumbe toka kwa mjasilia mali na Mwalimu Vumilia Sassi. Ujumbe unamaneno mepesi sana lakini maana yake ni nzito! Wengi tunaomba Mungu atuletee mvua kwenye maisha yetu / mashamba yetu ili mbegu tulizopanda au tunazotaka kupanda ziote! Lakini wakati huo huo hatutaki kuona wala kujanyaga matope!
Hivi tutaombaje mvua halafu hatutaki kuona udongo umeloa? Sasa hizo mbegu zetu zitaingiaje chini ya aridhi na kuweka mizizi yake kwa chini kama udogo ni mgumu haulimiki! Ninachotaka kusema ni kwamba ukitamani na kulilia mafanikio yako binafsi basi lazima uwe teyari kukutana na changamoto mbali mbali. Jinsi utakavyo weza kudili na hizo changamoto ndio itakupa picha halisi ya mavuno yako (will determine your success). Kama hutaki kudili na matope basi usiombe mvua kwani hauko teyari kulima! Oprah Winfrey aliwahi kusema kuwa kama hauko teyati kuongelewa basi hauko teyari kwa maendeleo!
Wonder woman ni nani? Je, wewe ni wonder woman?! Wimbo huu ambao umetungwa na mwanamke mwenzetu Zamaradi Mketema na kuimbwa na kaka Chris Lunda ili kuwahamasisha wanawake wasikate tamaa pindi wanapo anguka.
Ni wimbo unaovutia nankusisimua mno! Binafsi nimeusikiliza kama mara kumi hivi, lakini kil nilipo usikiliza nikama ndio nausikia kwa mara ya kwanza na unagusa hisia zangu zaidi na zaidi.
Wimbo huu umenifanya nirudi hapa kuandika kama ilivyokuwa huko nyuma, wale waliokuwa nami toka mwanzo wanajua jinsi nilivyokuwa natoa maoni yangu mbali mbali isipokuwa SIASA! Nilikuwa nataka kujaribu kuchukua likizo ya mwaka mzima ili niweke nguvu zaidi kwa swala fulani. Lakini huu wimbo kwa njia fulani unenipa nguvu zaidi ya kufikiria upya na kusema mimi ni “Wonder woman” Simba niliye mbugani natafuta mawindo hivyo siwezi kutafuta mawindo sehemu moja nikaridhika!
Ninawasomaji wangu ambao wameni miss sana, hivyo kutokuandika kwangu kuna waumiza! Hivyo nimeamu kusikiliza sauti ya mwanamke mwenzangu, my fellow wonder woman! Narudi tena, kwa nguvu zote! Mimi ni wonder woman hakuna kukata tamaa ?? Zamaradi Mketema, TV host, Song writer (Wonder woman), Philanthropist
Ngoja niseme kitu ambacho huwenda wengine wanakiona lakini hawajasema hadharani. Katika viwanda vya habari na burudani kwa muda mrefu sana vimetawaliwa na wanaume, nafikiri sasa ni wakati muafaka wa wanawake wa Tanzania kuendesha hii industry!
Katika wanaume wote hawa ambao wanashikilia hii industry marehemu Ruge Mutahaba ndio alikuwa anaakili ya kuogopesha wengi! He was the brainer of all! Huo ndio ukweli! Lakini nikiangalia kwa wanawake, naona pamoja na mapungufu yaliopo kuna wakina Ruge wengi tu kama tukiamua kushikana mikono na kusimama pamoja!
Kuna wanawake wengi sana nawaona wenye uwezo wa kufanya makubwa sana kama mtaacha hizi “pettiness” ambazo zinaleta mgawanyiko kati yenu! Ni wakati sasa waku-stop these “bullies” in media and entertainment industry! Sisi ni wonder woman hatushindwi!
Mapenzi unayonipa, sijawahi kupata najiuliza ni kwanini, hatukujuana mapema
Nimeishi na wasojua mapenzi, wasojua hata kunyenyekea
Nimeishi na wanaojua ku-force wasojua hata kubembeleza Ninapokuwa na wewe, najiona ndio mwenyewe Hata kama sina pesa, najiona tajiri Hata kama sijala, najiona nimeshiba??
***Happy Anniversary baba na mama wawili. Mbarikiwe sana***
A better nuanced post by a better writer on Kenyans in the diaspora and what they go through.
By Odumbe Kute
Mercy’s picture has nothing to do with the article!
This is a myth that has been perpetuated for decades about life out in the Diaspora being more rosy than the suffering in Kenya. Whoever tries to convince you of that needs their head examined. Life is not a bed of roses out here. Forget the drama of Diaspora people who land in Kenya for holidays and flash the Queen’s shilling or Uncle Sam’s dollar. You have no idea what they went through to get that shit. I feel sorry for them personally, because what they have to come back to after splashing out in Kenya is a life of misery and debt.
See, there’s this assumption that if you’re in the Diaspora, you can pluck money from a tree and send it back home to do “development”. An assumption that Diaspora people are the best equipped to make sure that the hopelessness in Kenya is sorted out. There is an irony in that. For the last 11 years, Kenyans in the Diaspora have been remitting an average of Kshs 145 billion every year. And no, that’s not a typo. Diaspora remittances are the 2nd biggest revenue stream for the Kenyan economy.
The story that’s not told is what Kenyans in the Diaspora have to go through to deliver that shit. I can’t even begin to tell you the trauma this represents. There are people out here who are even scared of picking a phone call from home because they know it’s about demanding them to send money back home. A phone call is never about “How are you? How is life out there? Are you well? What about your family?”. The phone calls are about “Send us money now. If you don’t, we will die”. For school fees, for bills, for medical costs, for emergency, for saving someone’s life. The way it’s put, you’d think that if you don’t send money, someone is going to die immediately.
Alpha (blogger for alphaigogo.com) and her babysister Blessing
What people don’t know is that Kenyans out here have to hustle like a nonsense. Most do at least two or three jobs, or if they don’t, they’re working and trying to go to school at the same time. Money is not collected on trees as folk in Kenya believe. It’s hard sweat and graft, and even then, you’re just making ends meet if you’re lucky.
That doesn’t even take into account the stresses of life. Let me paint a picture for you, a picture that is common to most people in the Diaspora. You leave Kenya when your 18 or 19. Your objective is to go to school. You arrive out here and find out quick enough, that you have to hustle to pay school fees, you have to go to school at night because you have to work days and weekends, you have absolutely no time to yourself and the pressure eventually gets to you. If you make it out of that quagmire, you meet someone, you get hooked up, perhaps in a come we stay, perhaps in a marriage. You get a kid or two.
Now, out here, you can’t operate like you’ll get a house help from Kakamega or Kisii or something. Hell no, child care is so expensive, it defeats the object of working when you have a small child because you’ll be paying most of that salary for child care. Couples have to work around schedules to make sure children are taken care of. Many work shifts and don’t even see each other for weeks on end. The stresses this places on young families is unbelievable.
Consider that out here, we don’t have the same social network of close friends and family who would step in when things go thick. Under the circumstances, things most definitely go thick and we don’t have a way of coping with them. You have no one to turn to, no one to trust, no one who will give you guidance and counsel without judging the decisions you have made in life. Throw in the complexity of both of you as a couple having to hustle, the pressure both of you have to send money back home, the pressure both of you have to try and make a living and figure out what direction in life you both want to take.
But even within that, thousands have issues to do with immigration. Maratathi ni shida. A lot of people suffer in silence because they believe they can’t go to the police, or hospital or to the authorities because they don’t have papers. This despite the campaigning we did for years to eliminate immigration screening as a factor in DVP – Domestic Violence Protocol. The idea being that if you’re a domestic violence victim, you will never be asked about your immigration status. And I still can’t get this “African” thing used as an excuse by men. Someone once told me that in our community, if we don’t discipline our women, wata kuwa mang’aa.
Those who don’t have papers are very vulnerable. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s never to judge someone’s situation or why they don’t have papers. It boils down to every individual trying to make a better life for themselves and their family, and no one has any right to take that away from them. But in particular, women are the most vulnerable if they don’t have papers. Many are stuck in abusive relationships because they have nowhere to go. You can’t get a job, open a bank account, rent a house, get a drivers licence or do anything meaningful if you don’t have papers. I know of women who have to trade sex to get someone with papers to act on their behalf to rent a house, or to get someone to let them use their bank details or to cover them for anything that requires papers.
Granted, there are people doing well out here. But that is the exception, not the rule. Hundreds more are suffering. Some will never tell you that. They’ll paint you a rosy picture of how “Majuu” ni poa sana. They’ll tell you that your salvation in life is to get out here in the Diaspora. What they won’t tell you is that out here, it’s ugly, sometimes even more so than Kenya. You barely can keep the lights on, and there’s so much pressure especially to send money back home.
It’s not even just about the pressure of sending money you don’t have back home. The trauma of making it day to day hits many people hard. In the last 15 years, I personally know 6 people who have committed suicide because they couldn’t hack it. Thousands more are suffering in silence and experiencing mental health issues that affect their ability to cope with life day to day.
Mercy and her mother- Alpha (Tanzanian Diaspora)
We really have to stop this myth that living out here aka “majuu” is the solution. We have nowhere to hide as Kenyans, we must confront and sort out our problems. In case you’re wondering what solution could ever get us out of the nightmare we have in Kenya right now, the answer is a revolution. But it’ll only happen when as a people, we get angry enough. Right now, we’re clearly not angry enough because we’re still tolerating the hegemony and corruption going on. We’re still very comfortable letting the bandit state, the politicians and the usual suspects oppress us. We’re happy to oblige, grabbing our ankles while they shaft us without the courtesy of lubrication as we sing to the tune of “Najivunia kuwa Mkenya”.
Kuna binadamu wenye tabia za kama huyu Nyani anaye mvuta mwenzie mkia. Yani mtu anatumia nguvu za ziada kutaka kumuangusha fulani kwasababu tu anamzidi mahala fulani.
Ukweli usiopingika ni kwamba nguvu anyopoteza kumvuta mwenzake chini ni kubwa sana kuliko nguvu ambayo angetumia kufikiria apandaje juu ya mti! Kama angeweza kujitathimini na kujua wapi anakosea halafu angeamua kutumia nguvu hiyo hiyo kupanda juu nafikiri huwenda angekuwa mbali zaidi ya huyo anaye mvuta chini.
Hivi ndivyo baadhi ya watu walivyo. Wanachukua nguvu nyingi kimchukia mtu au watu ambao hawana uhusiano wowote katika kushindwa kwao au kutokufanikiwa kwao. Badala ya kujitathimini wao wanajenga chuki. Kwamfano, embu fikiria kama huyu Nyani anaye mvuta mwenzake kama angeamua kuzunguka upande wa pili wa mti akatumia hiyo nguvu kupanda unafikiri angekuwa wapi? Huwenda angekuwa amefika juu ya mti akapunga na upepo mwanana huku akimchora mwenzie!
Siku zote hakikisha unavaa viatu vinavyo kutosha! Usivae viatu vikubwa kuliko miguu yako ili nawe upendeke na wenye miguu mikubwa! Na usivae viatu vidogo kuliko miguu yako ili tu ufurahushe wenye miguu midogo! Na kamwe, usitembee bila viatu ili tu ukubalike na wanao penda kutembea peku peku!
Maisha ni mafupi sana lakini safari yake ni ndefu ambayo barabara yake haijulikani wapi kuna lami na wapi kuna vumbi (rough road) hivyo ni vyema kuvaa viatu vinavyo kutosha wewe mwenyewe siyo ndugu yako wala rafiki kwani wewe mwenyewe ndio utakaye tembea hiyo safari ya maisha yako. Bahati mbaya kila mtu kupangiwa bara bara yake na kila bara bara inachangamoto zake huwezi azima viatu ambavyo hujui kama vitamudu safari yako!
Hivyo, ili ufurahie safari yako kwanza, hepuka kuiga miondoko ya watu wengine. Wewe unaweza fikiria fulani anatembea kwa madaha ngoja niige miondoko yake kumbe mwenzako anamaumivu ya miguu kutoka bara bara yake. Pili vaa viatu vya size yako visiwe vikubwa wala vidogo, na kama huwezi tembelea viatu virefu basi vaa viatu vya chini au boots! Mwisho, ukichoka unaruhusiwa kupumzika ila usilale bara barani hakikisha unapigania kufika mwisho wa safari.
Je, umeshawahi kukutwa na hali kama hii? Hali ya kujishusha zaidi ya mtoto ili tu uweze kuwa na mtu au watu fulani katika maisha yako? Hali ya kujishusha thamani yako na saa nyingine kupoteza utu wako ili tu fulani au kundi fulani likupende? (comprising your morals and values, loosing who you are for the sake of afraiding being alone). Kuna wengine mpaka wana acha kupigania ndoto zao kwasababu wanaona watapoteza baadhi ya watu katika maisha yao. Wengine wanaishi maisha ambayo siyo ya hualisia ili tu kuwafurahisha watu fulani ili waendelee kua kwenye maisha yao! Nikitu kibaya sana kama unaweza kupoteza nguvu uliyonayo ndani yako ambayo umepewa na Mungu eti kwasababu ya kutaka kukubalika na watu fulani au kwasababu unaogopa kutembea mwenyewe kwenye maishai yako. Duniani hapa kila mmoja amepangiwa safari yake na Mwenyezi Mungu, na wengine huwenda tumepangiwa safari zetu kuwa tutembee wenyewe sasa basi ukiona kama unapoteza hualisia wako na utu wako kwasababu ya kitu au mtu fulani au watu fulani, basi jua kua safari yako umepangiwa kutembea mwenyewe! Don't ever sacrifice your happiness, morals, values, dignity, humanity kwasababu tu yakuogopa kutembea mwenyewe. Majasiri siku zote wanatembea wenyewe! Wanaweza wakachukua muda mrefu kufika lakini atafika akiwa salama na kwa ujasiri. Usiogope! Maana lazima kunawakati utafika itabidi tu uwe mwenyewe, anza sasa kabla hujachelewa ukaja sema "laiti ningelijua"! Usilazimishe mambo! Anza safari mengine muachie Mungu!
@Regran_ed from @hollietheblogger - There is a REASON why GOD forcefully takes some people off your life and off your lane. Most of the time when this happens, we cry, fight and moan...God why‼️How come? Why me? But In order to prepare you for greatness, God has to get rid of all the barriers and obstacles. God understands that you gat to be free... & completely light... to FLY?So when God took DP out of the puzzle he knew what he was doing... probably he knew that being best friends will do them good ??♂️? Otherwise if she had forced this love or this relationship... she could be in Pretoria still playing house while the other is all over poking his favourite toy called Lady-Va*** ?? and to be completely honest... SHE COULD NOT HAVE REALISED ALL THIS????and her haters would have missed a chance to see her smile in 3D before they all die?? So NEVER DOUBT THE PROCESS ‼️‼️‼️ #youarewhoyouare #trusttheprocess #itsallgood ? - #regrann
**In the picture is Zari the Bosslady with Dr Mathew Knowels the music mogul, the legend, and the man behind Beyonce Knowels success and Beyonce biological father. **All the credit to Holliethgblogger
The City of Zhengzhou at a glance. seen behind is the Marriot Seven Star Hotel Building with 66 floors, where Sir Igogo is accommodated on the 41st floor
Professor Zhang, a reknown leading Chinese Scientist World wide, founder of Jufeel Aloevera PMAS products, going through a Clinical research report done by eleven selected referal hospitals Medicinal Specialist in Tanzania, presented to him by the CEO of PMAS Biotechnology Company (T)Ltd, Mr. Otieno Igogo, in Zhengzhou City, PRC. Today 09/12/2018
May Almighty God continue to bless his hustle ??
Regrann from @jokatemwegelo - From a regular girl to beauty queen to pan-african media personality to one of the top university graduates at the University of Dar Es Salaam- with honors to owning my own business, landing on Forbes Africa @forbesafrica to being a politician to being appointed by the President of Tanzania as District Commissioner - Kisarawe and to many more accolades, Amen. Dear Girl child let no one tell you can not do it all and achieve greatness on your own terms.
Many congratulations to our newly crowned Miss Tanzania @queenelizabethtanzania Go fly the Tanzanian flag ?? higher. You have all our blessings. To all the contestants of Miss TZ this year, congrats for making it this far. You now have a platform to make a difference in your life and our country. The choice for greatness is in your hands. And to you my sister @basillamwanukuzi , thank you for restoring the respect of Miss Tanzania. Through you, girls will be inspired to go after their dreams. As the saying goes, ‘When something is important enough, you do it even if the odds are not in your favor’.. You organized a great show even without enough sponsors and resources, but you my sister did it! Well done to you ????Looking forward to what the future holds for Miss Tanzania under your leadership and thank you for making that contribution for education in Kisarawe @newmisstanzania @mac_couture @the_queen_of_fabrics @americannailstz @kisarawe_mpya #kisarawempya #jokatekisarawe - #regrann
The three pillars to the well being of Mr. Otieno Igogo and all of you who are direct and indirect benefitting from the sources of Mzee Igogo Otieno. 1. Min Gwethrhoda (mama Gwethrhoda / Blessing) 2. Min Vetto 3. Nyategi (Nyategi means a girl / lady born from Utegi village) /Mrs Mabada . I salute them all.
Hao wamama watatu ni Mashujaa wa karne, wanaishi maisha ya kimbingu kwa kusema ukweli siku zote za maisha yao, wanaheshimu na kuitukuza Sabato ya Bwana kila wiki na miaka yote, wachapakazi wasio mfano maofisini na nyumbani, wanapenda kusaidia watu wote kiushauri na mali, pasipo mipaka wala tabaka, Naye Mwenyezi Mungu kawapa kipawa cha hekima, busara na Upendo wa pekee kwa Mzee mwasisi wa familia yao. Nawaheshimu na kuwathamini kupindukia. Asemavyo Mzee OOI.
