I typically let Zemzem do the Facebook posts but I couldn’t pass on sharing this with you guys. My letter to my oh so motivational counselor:

Dear Mr. Courtney,
I want to thank you. If it were not for you I would not be at the place I am today, I would be a hundred times better………

Thank you for the lack of motivation you always gave me after every conversation. Thank you for having me leave your office on the verge of tears on multiple occasions. But most of all, thank you for trying to doing everything in your possible right (and everything not in your right) to make sure that I would not get the chance to walk across this stage tonight and celebrate the last four years of my life.

I will never forget the many times you’ve belittled and shut me down. From blatantly asking why I am applying to any schools, forget competitive ones, and being surprised when I got accepted into EIGHT out of the ten schools I applied to (one of which I was rejected because YOU decided not to send in your counselor report), all the way to the telling me on multiple occasions that I will not be walking or graduating and saying you were helping me or “doing me a FAVOR” but really just barely doing your job.

According to the American School Counselor Association, your job is to, “help all students in the areas of academic achievement, personal/social development and career development, ensuring today’s students become the productive, well-adjusted adults of tomorrow.” As a COUNSELOR, your job is to counsel, motivate, and push your students to do and be the best they can possibly be. Unfortunately you did not fulfill your roll and judging by your actions and words toward all of the students of color from my class that were unfortunate enough to have you as a counselor, you are not the right person to be counseling students at a school as diverse at Garfield. Being an all honors and AP student, I understand just how much institutionalized racism is alive and thriving at Garfield considering how many students of color there are but yet I’ve been the ONLY black girl in multiple classes over the years regardless of the fact that most of the SOC are even more intelligent than I.

I truly believe that the first step in solving the issue of institutionalized racism at Garfield is by starting with the faculty who just so happens to be you.  As I move forward to my next phase in life I will continue to rep the true bulldog that I’ve grown to become and will do everything I can possibly do to make sure you never get the opportunity to make any other student feel the way you’ve made the students of color of my class and previous classes feel.

Again, thank you for being such a negative force in my life, its going to make walking across that stage all the more sweet.
Rabiya Robele

Source: Hon ShyRose Bhanji Facebook

“The world and life seems to lack meaning and purpose because the whole race of humanity is fallen under sin. Death is every body’s lot. No body is immune to pain, suffering, and disappointment. Sometimes we are hurt by the choice of others. God doesn’t restrict or dictate our choices. Our attitudes towards God and our fellow human may be affected by our choices. Serve and help as much as you can, be satisfied with service you offer. God exists in the life ‘meaninglessness’ and we doesn’t feel His presence because our feelings are affected  by this meaninglessness. I know and belive one thing: amid our hopelessness and despair God exists.”~~~ Herbert

very well said Idris! Vijana wengi Watanzania naona kama wanafikiria mafanikio yanakuja tu yakiwa yame ng’aa kama Almasi bila kuju kuwa hata Almasi ilipitia kwenye mchujo kwanza ikasafishwa kabla ya kutumiwa!……#IRefuseToStop

Just a #TBS

What is true wealth? Is it money? Maybe possessions? Prestige? Power? Or what?

The following story illustrates very well what true wealth is. One day a wealthy father took his son on a trip to the country so that the son could see how the poor lived. They spent a day and a night at the farm of a very poor family. When they got back from their trip, the father asked his son, “How was the trip?”

“Very good, Dad!”

“Did you see how poor people can be?”

“Yeah!”

“And what did you learn?”

The son answered, “I saw that we have a dog at home, and they have four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of the garden; they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lamps in the house; they have the stars. Our patio reaches to the front yard; they have the whole horizon.” When the little boy was finished, the father was speechless. His son then added, “Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are!”

MY FRND

FUNZO KUBWA SANA HILI

Mwanamke mmoja alikuwa akifanya kazi katika kiwanda cha kusindika nyama. Siku moja baada ya kumaliza kazi zake pale kiwandani alienda katika chumba chenye freezer (cold room) ambako nyama zilikuwa zikihifadhiwa kukagua vitu fulani. kwa bahati mbaya wakati yupo kwenye hicho chumba cha ubaridi mlango ulijifunga na kijilock kwa nje. na hakukuwa na msaada wa kuweza kuufungua mpaka kuwepo mtu wa nje.

Ingawa alilia na kupiga kelele za kuomba msaada wa kufungiliwa lakini kelele hizo hazikuwa rahisi kusikika nje ya hicho chumba kidogo, na wafanyakazi wengi pale kiwandani walikuwa washaondoka.

Masaa matano baadae akiwa katika hali ya kukaribia kukata roho kutokana na baridi kali ya hicho chumba, mlinzi wa geti la kiwanda hicho alifungua mlango wa cold room alimokuwamo yule mwanamke. Na baadae baada ya kutolewa na kupata nafuu alipata wasaa wa kumuuliza yule mlinzi ilikuwaje na akafungua mlango wa cold room wakati ilikuwa si ratiba yake na vile vile si kazi yake?.

Maelezo ya yule mlinzi, ”nimefanya kazi kwenye hichi kiwanda kwa miaka 38 sasa, mamia ya wafanyakazi wanatoka na kuingia kiwandani lakini wewe peke yako kati ya wote uliyekuwa ukithubutu kunisalimia asubuhi na kuniaga kila jioni unapoondoka kiwandani, wengine wanani-treat kama mtu nisye na thamani na ambaye sipo katika ulimwengu huu.

Leo ulipokuja kazini asubuhi ulinisalimia kama kawaida ya tabia yako ya kujali ilivyo ”uliniambia habari za asubuhi na tukafurahi kwa dakika mbili, lakini leo baada ya muda wa kazi kuisha sijapata kwa heri yako na ile ya kunitakia joni njema na kubaki salama. Hivyo nilachukua uamuzi wa kuzunguka kwanza humu ndani kuangalia kama upo kwa sababu kujali kwako kumekuwa kukinifanya na mimi nionekane ni mtu katika ulimwengu huu.

Kwa kutokupata farewell yako siku ya leo nikagundua tu kuna baya litakuwa limekupata. na ndipo nilipokukuta kwenye chumba cha barafu.FUNZO

Ishi vizuri na kila mtu, be humble to every one, mheshimu kila mtu wakubwa na wadogo. Try to have an impact on people who cross your path every day kwa sababu huwezi jua kesho yako imebeba kitu gani.

MUST read!!!!!!

Tarehe 18-10-2014
Hakika ni cku iliyokuwa mbaya maishani mwangu ila ubaya huo ulichukua muda mchache sana na kisha ikageuka kuwa siku yakupokea muujiza wangu

Ilikuwa ni siku ya Jmosi majira ya jioni, nilikwenda kumsalimu shangazi yangu aliekuwa amelazwa ktk hospitali ya K.C.M.C. Nikiwa pale ghafla simu yangu iliita nami nikaipoke alikuwa ni mdogo angu, aliniulza dada uko wapi? nikamjibu nipo hosptalini bado, akaniulza tena je wafahamu alipo mwanao? nikamuulza nini maana yako hasa?alinijbu tu nisamehe kisha akakata simu ila aliniacha na maswali.

Nilichukua simu ili kuwatafuta wazazi wangu na mdogo wangu ambae ndiye nilimwacha na mtoto ila hakuna hata mmoja aliyeipa ushirikiano simu yangu kwa kuipokea. Basi nikaamu kuaga ili niondoke kuelekea nyumbani, wakati nikiwa nimempa shangazi mkono il tuagane simu yangu ikaita mda huo alikuwa ni mama yangu mdogo nikaipokea, aliongea huku akilia, naomba uniambie nini kimemuua mjukuu wangu yani mwanangu Brayton(Deodatus) nikamjibu mama mdogo sikuuelewi naomba uniambie vizuri ndipo akajibu kwa kusema nimepigiwa simu mwanao kafariki! Ilikuwa ni vigumu kuamini ujumbe ule, lakini ghafla nikapokea tena simu kutoka kwa dada yangu akiniambia mwanao alianguka kwenye maji tumempeleka zahanati tumeambiwa amefariki hivyo tupo njiani kuja KCMC

Wapendwa cha ajabu sikupata nafasi ya kulia japo nilipokea taarifa ngumu kwangu! Ila nilipata nafasi yakupiga magoti nikanyanyua simu  yangu kuelekeza juu nikiwa nimeweka picha ya mwanangu

Nikasema Ee Bwana mtizame mwanangu Brayton, naomba umtetee na umuokoe kama ulivyo waokoa watumishi wako Meshack, Shedrack na Abernego walipotupwa ktk tanuru la moto, msimamie kama ulivyo msimamia mtumishi wako Daniel alipowekwa katikati ya simba wenye njaa kali, kisha nikasema si niwewe Mungu ulietuahidi ktk kitabu cha Yeremia 33-3 kuwa tukuite nawe utaitika na kutuonesha mambo magumu na mazito tusiyoyajua? Mungu hukuzungumza na Yeremia peke yake hivyo nakuomba ukatende na kwa mwanangu leo, kausha yale maji na uweke uzima ndani yake kwani  bado namuhitaji  mwanangu Mungu.

Nilikuja kushtuka baadae kwani baada ya sala nilipoteza fahamu nikakuta nimezungukwa na watu wengi na wachungaji sikujua walitokea wapi ila walikuwa wakifanya maombi yakupinga roho za mauti

Ghafla nikasikia sauti ikisema kwa mbali mama Brayton njoo mwanao anakuita, waliponifikia walikuwa na ma-nurse tena wanalia, nikawauliza kama mwanangu hajafa na ananita mbona mnalia? Wakajibu tunalia kwasababu alipoletwa alikuwa teyari alishajisaidia haja zote na kupoa kabisa mwili wake ila mama yako aliomba ampulizie tena pumzi yake kwani anaamini  Mungu hakumpangia mjukuu wake kifo kile. Mama yangu alimpulzia pumzi  mara ya kwanza, ya pili, mara ya tatu akashtuka na kusikika akisema mama yangu njoooo!
Nilipofika alipokuwapo mwanangu nilimkuta baba yangu akiwa analia akaniambia mwanangu nalia kwasababu ya ukuu wa Mungu hivyo ondoa hofu mwanao yu hai, mwanangu aliponiona alilia akisema mama yangu njoo unipe nyonyo mama.

Doctor aliniuliza unaabudu kanìsa gani?nikamjibu RC akaniambia inakpa ukatoe sadaka yakushukuru kwani sijawahi pokea mtoto aliefikia hatua hii kisha akaurudia uhai.
Asubuhi watu walifika kunipa pole ila walishangaa nilipojibu asanteni ila mwanangu yu hai. Wapendwa taa nyekundu ya mwanadamu si ya MUNGU hicho ndicho ninacho amini
Upitapo ktk magumu wewe mwite Mungu kwani yeye pekee ndie msaada uonekanao kwa nyakati za shida. BARIKIWA WEWE UAMINIE KUWA MUNGU HASHINDWI NA CHOCHOTE. AMINA.

Source: Loveness Goodluck FacebookNimekwenda kuchungulia zaidi profile ya Loveness ili nione picha za mtoto alizopiga hivi karibuni. Nikakuta kumbe Brayton amezaliwa October 16th!! Hivyo tukio hili lilitokea 2 days after his birthday ?? …… It would have been a very-very sad situation. Losing a child 2 days after his birthday?!!  Can’t imagine! But hey! The answer is ?

Napenda kuanza kwa kumshukuru Mwalimu Mkuu wa Shule ya Sekondari Majani ya Chai. Alivyoniletea barua na kuniomba kuwa Mgeni Rasmi kwenye mahafali yao sikusita kwasababu ni mwalimu mkuu wa kipekee sana. Anaipenda kweli kweli shule anayoiongoza kuanzia walimu mpaka wanafunzi. Na leo nimeshuhudia hata yeye wanampenda sana na kumheshimu. Niko tayari kushirikiana nae kwa asilimia zote katika kuhakikisha hii shule yenye wanafunzi takribani 1300. Shule ya tatu kwa ukubwa katika wilaya ya Ilala inaboresha mazingira yake ya kazi na ya kusomea. Mwenyezi Mungu atupe wepesi na atufungulie njia tuweze kufanikisha hili. #BeYou #BeKidotified #KidotiShe looks A-M-A-Z-I-NG in Oprah Winfrey’s voice! She’s pretty!Kuna siku Jokate aliuliza swali kuwa kwa muonekano wake unadhani anafaa kufanya kazi gani? Mimi nilisema angefaa sana kuwa Motivational Speaker for youths (soma hapa)……. Nafikiri hata wewe ukimwangalia hapa utakubaliana na mimi! She has a convincing body language to inspire youth to go for their dreams! Keep it up Jokate! Na ubarikiwe siku zote!

“The song “It Is Well With My Soul” was written by a successful Christian lawyer Heratio Spafford. His only son died at age 4 in 1871. In 1872, the great Chicago fire wiped out his vast estate, made from a successful legal career. In 1873 he sent his wife & 4 daughters over to Europe on a summer trip on the ill fated SS Ville du Havre. Since he had a lot of work to do, he planned to follow them later. The Ship sank and he lost his 4 daughters with the wife being the only survivor. She sent him a famous telegram which simply read, “SAVED ALONE….” On his return home, his Law firm was burned down and the insurance company refused to pay him. They said “It’s an Act of God”. He had no money to pay for his house and no work, he also lost his house. Then while sitting and thinking what’s happening to him, being a spiritual person, he wrote a song – “Whatever, my Lord, You have taught me to say – It is well, it is well with my soul”. My dear friend, a good attitude will determine your altitude. When you look at your life, career, job or family life, what do you say? Do you praise God? Do you blame the devil? A good attitude towards God makes Him move on your behalf. Just sit down and say, “Today, God, it is well with my soul, I am thankful I had a peaceful sleep, I am thankful I am alive with possibilities, I am thankful I have a roof over me, I am thankful I have a job, I am thankful that I have Family and Friends. Above all, I am thankful that I have the Lord Jesus Christ on my side.” Be blessed and don’t be envious or shocked when others are prospering because you don’t know what they have been through to get there (test, trials and tribulation) so thank God for what you have. “Little is much when God is in it. It Is Well With My Soul!” Touch someone’s life with this message. If God is for us, who can be against us? Don’t read if you can’t forward. God has seen you struggling with something. God says it’s over. A blessing is coming your way. If you believe in God send this message on, please don’t ignore it, you are being tested. God is going to fix two things (BIG) in your favor. If you believe in God, drop everything and pass it on. Tomorrow will be the best day of your life. Don’t break this. Send this to fourteen friends in 10 minutes.”~~~~~Source: sent to me by a friend

Isn’t that something! Too cute! Unajua kuishi huku na wenzetu kuna mengi MAZURI yakujifunza pia na mengi MABAYA yakuto jifunza unaangalia tu nakuyaacha jinsi yalivyo!…… Sasa katika vitu vya kujifunza moja wapo ni KUWA WEWE KAMA WEWE! Yani mambo yale ya unafiki unafiki hakuna! Eti sijui kiongozi tena mwanamke wa umri wa Dr. Migiro  achezee mpira namna hii Tanzania?  Subutu! Labda awe Mwalimu wa Netball kama mama yangu mkubwa Mary Protuz?? Nakumbuka huyo mama yangu mkubwa watu walikuwa wakisema wee “behind her back” kuwa havaagi gauni wala sketi! Yani yeye ni mtu wa suruali, na short pants siku zote. Na wala huto mkuta akifunga Khanga labda anakwenda kuoga! ………Anyway big up Dr. AshaRose Migiro,  talent has no end, and there’s no age limit to have fun!

Huko nyuma nilishasema kuwa, mzee Lowassa na mama Lowassa ukiwaangalia matendo yao utajua kuwa hawa watu ni wastarabu sana! Ni watu wako humble sana. Kila mtu anamapungufu yake lakini ukorofi wa kishamba usio kuwa na tija siyo style yao ya maisha wala tabia zao binafsi. Kuna watu tu wanataka kuwatumia hawa wazee vibaya lakini naona wako makini sana!! ……Ninayo yasema hapa siongelei kisiasa au makosa aliyoyafanya kwenye utawala wake hapana! Nawaongelea kama binadamu wenzangu raia wa hii dunia. Hayo yaliyotokea huko yalishapita tunaganga yajayo! …….. Kwakweli wameonyesha mfano nzuri sana kwa jamii ya jinsi KIONGOZI na raiya wa hii dunia inatupasa tuwe! Siasa si chuki jamani! Jana nilifarijika kuona Mayor wa Jiji la Dar ambaye ni mwana Chadema akimuongelea vizuri na kumsifia sana  aliyekuwa  kiongozi au former Mayor wa Jiji la Dar ambaye alikuwa ni mwana CCM (Dr. Didas Massaburi).  Ni mfano mzuri sana wakuigwa. ………anyway, ubarikiwe sana Mh. Lowassa.

Dr. Victoria Kisyombe is a founder of SELFINA an organization for women financial empowerment in Tanzania.  Last week she attended the VV100 (Vital Voice) retreat, in Seattle, Washington…..the following are some of the pictures during the retreat…..“Excellent memories with great ladies, top 100 (VV100) Vital Voices. We had a great retreat. Shared great experiences, together mapped the way forward at this exotic and beautiful place, the Ritz-Carlton Half Moon Bay in San Francisco! Vital Voices you are the best. Johnson & Johnson thank for supporting this initiative. Millions of women around the world benefit from this! I thank God for giving me this opportunity to play a role in my own small way!”~~~~said Dr. Victoria Kisyombe on her Facebook account To read more about Dr Victoria Kisyombe click ? Dr.Kisyombe 

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Spiritual Abuse is Real (and you are not crazy)

Although I am thankful I haven’t had an extreme experience with spiritual abuse, I have had some incidences that have scarred me and made me leery of churches and ministries that bully.

Some of my spiritual abuse experiences include:

• A supervisor telling me that even though I was burned out and losing my health, I had to stay in the ministry because if I didn’t I would lose all my gifting to do future ministry.
• A church that repeatedly told us they basically had the corner on the market of Jesus and that if we had to go elsewhere, we would miss God’s highest.
• A leader who found ministry to be a vehicle for his great gain, lying and manipulating donors to earn more and more money.
• A ministry that shamed me into throwing away all my evil music (including Lionel Ritchie and Duran Duran…oh the evil!)
• A leader who cornered me, threatened me, and yelled because I brought up a concern that others saw. This led to panic attacks. Perhaps you have a story to tell too.

 The 10 traits of spiritually abusive ministries. Have you experienced them?

 This post came because I woke up one night at 3 in the morning with this burden I couldn’t shake. So I wrote these traits of spiritually abusive ministries and churches. This is not an exhaustive list, but it typifies what happens. Often you don’t realize you’re in an abusive situation until your health is damaged, your soul is torn, or your outside relationships suffer. My heart in sharing this is to simply shed light on unhealthy, manipulative, controlling practices.Spiritually abusive ministries…

1. Have a distorted view of respect. They forget the simple adage that respect is earned, not granted. Abusive leaders demand respect without having earned it by good, honest living.

2. Demand allegiance as proof of the follower’s allegiance to Christ. It’s either his/her way or no way. And if a follower deviates, he is guilty of deviating from Jesus.
3. Use exclusive language. “We’re the only ministry really following Jesus.” “We have all the right theology.” Believe their way of doing things, thinking theologically, or handling ministry and church is the only correct way. Everyone else is wrong, misguided, or stupidly naive.
4. Create a culture of fear and shame. Often there is no grace for someone who fails to live up to the church’s or ministry’s expectation. And if someone steps outside of the often-unspoken rules, leaders shame them into compliance. Leaders can’t admit failure, but often search out failure in others and uses that knowledge to hold them in fear and captivity. They often quote scriptures about not touching God’s anointed, or bringing accusations against an elder. Yet they often confront sin in others, particularly ones who bring up legitimate biblical issues. Or they have their circle of influence take on this task, silencing critics.
5. Often have a charismatic leader at the helm who starts off well, but slips into arrogance, protectionism and pride. Where a leader might start off being personable and interested in others’ issues, he/she eventually withdraws to a small group of “yes people” and isolates from the needs of others. These ministries and churches harbor a cult of personality, meaning if the central figure of the ministry or church left, the entity would collapse, as it was entirely dependent on one person to hold the place together.
6. Cultivate a dependence on one leader or leaders for spiritual information. Personal discipleship isn’t encouraged. Often the Bible gets pushed away to the fringes unless the main leader is teaching it.
7. Demand blind servitude of their followers, but live prestigious, privileged lives. They live aloof from their followers and justify their material extravagance as God’s favor and approval on their ministry. Unlike Jesus’ instructions to take the last seat, they often take the first seat at events and court others to grant them privileges. They typically chase after wealth–at any cost, and often at the expense of the very people they shepherd.
8. Buffer him/herself from criticism by placing people around themselves whose only allegiance is to the leader. These leaders and churches view those who bring up legitimate issues as enemies. Those who were once friends/allies swiftly become enemies once a concern is raised. Sometimes these folks are banished, told to be silent, or shamed into submission.
9. Hold to outward performance but rejects authentic spirituality. Places burdens on followers to act a certain way, dress an acceptable way, and have an acceptable lifestyle, but they often demonstrate licentiousness, greed, and uncontrolled addictions behind closed doors.
10. Use exclusivity for allegiance. Followers close to the leader or leaders feel like lucky insiders. Everyone else is on the outside, though they often long to be in that inner circle. If someone on the inner circle speaks up about abuses, lapses in character, illegal acts, or strong-arming, that insider immediately moves to an outsider. Fear of losing their special status often impedes insiders from speaking up.

I’m sure I’ve missed some traits, but looking from the outside, these resonate most. Do any of these traits resonate with you? Do you have any more to add? My hope is that by writing about these excesses publicly, we can begin to dialog openly about this very real problem. Hiding it or pretending it doesn’t exist simply adds more confusion and anger to those who have walked through the trauma of spiritual abuse.

SOURCE: MaryDemuth,com

Macho Kodooo hehehehe……Wiki iliyopita @efm_93.7 tulitangaza vipindi vyetu live kutokea Kibaha mkoa wa Pwani. Huu ni utaratibu wetu ambao tumeubatiza NJE NDANI.

Katika jukwaa la nje ndani tunafanya vipindi huku tukihusisha hadhira ambayo inakuja kutuona,wasaniii kuperfom, djs wetu kuturusha plus vipaji tunavyovikuta huko tuendako.Sasa siku hiyo kibaha alikuja kaka ambae ni mwana sarakasi na pia hasikii wala haongei kwa maana ni mlemavu. Kaka wa watu tulikutana nae mwanzo tukamwambia asubiri tutamuita kuperfom.Akasubiri masaa kama matatu mpaka muda wake ulipofika tukamualika jukwaani.

Muda wote alikuwa ni mtulivu hana kelele wala kihoro mpaka tulipomwambia sasa onyesha uwezo wako. Wakati anaanza kuonyesha sarakasi zake watu hawakumuelewa walimtukana, kumdhihaki, kumwagia maji, na kumrushia makopo. Kikubwa yeye hakuacha kuonyesha sarakasi zake na vimbwanga vyake kubwa zaidi alikuwa HASIKII watu wanasema nini au kumdhihaki maana ni kiziwi hasikii.

Wakati hayo yakiendelea nilikuwa najisikia vibaya natamani nimwambie ondoka lakini ile nguvu yake ya kuendelea na kutosikia ikanifanya nitulie.Kilichotokea kelele za kumdhihaki Zikaanza kupungua na baada ya Muda nasikia makofi ya kushangilia na kufurahi utadhani sio wao waliokuwa wakimtukana. Nikajifunza kuwa katika maisha wakati ukianza jambo sio wote watakuelewa ila wewe ndio unajielewa na kuelewa nini unafanya.Usiache kufanya au kupigania ndoto yako Hata kama watu hawakuelewi.Ipo siku wataelewa na salute watapiga.

Juzi nimekaa na bibi yake Zion nikawa namsikilizisha wimbo wa Salome wa @diamondplatnumz akaniambia huyu kijana wakati anaanza mziki watu walikuwa wanamsema na kumuita domo domo leo vipi? Wanamuita domo? au wanasikiliza mziki wake na kuimba na kucheza? Hahahaha yaani nilicheka sana nikasema bibi Zion amewaza nini?

Anyways @diamondplatnumz utanisamehe kwa mfano huu lakini sio mimi imagine bibi Zion anajua haya…lakini leo umekuwa inspirational ya vijana wengi katika muziki.

Ewe kijana Endelea kuwa wewe
Ewe kijana Fanya unachokiweza na unachokijua
Hata wakikucheka na kukudhihaki usiache endelea……. muda utafika wataelewa……. watashangilia,watapiga makofi, wataimba, watasimulia habari zako na watajivunia wewe!