Napenda kuona wadada wanao jitambua kuongea vitu kwa uwazi! Hilo swala nimeliongelea hapa juzi tuu (soma hapa), na leo kuona Jacqueline naye analiongelea nimependa sana! Nivizuri kuwafundisha hawa wadogo zetu wakike na wakiume wajue kuwa UTU ni kitu cha thamani sana kuliko muonekano wa nje! 
Yani, mimi huwa nikishamjua mtu ana roho fulani ya ‘kishetani’ hata kama anaelimu ya darasa gani huwa namdharau sana! Hata kama wewe ni mzuri na una maendeleo lakini roho yako ni mbaya, mchonganishi, mnafiki mzushi, unachukia kuona wengine wana furaha kwakweli mimi mtu kama huyo huwa namshusha thamani, nakama nakufahamu basi nitakuonyesha dharau LIVE! Sijuwagi “kushobokea” watu wenye roho za kwanini!….. Asante Jacqueline Mengi kwa kuliona hili. Mfano nzuri sana wa kuigwa!…..and you look so beautiful!……….please tembelea blog /website ya Jacqueline kwa jina la www.jnmengi.com
Siku za mwisho manabii wengi watajitokeza, watadanganya wengi na wengi watafuata!…… Hawa wachungaji ambao wanaishi maisha ya gharama ya juu wakati waumini wao ambao ndio chanzo cha mapato yao wana hali duni kupindukia! Je, hawa ni manabii wa kweli au ndo wale wa siku za mwisho?!! I am not judging just thinking outside the box! But You Be The Judge ???
Its never too late to achive your dream! Hata kama una miaka 100! Kama una nguvu za kuisaka hiyo dream yako then go for it! Kwasababu kama Mungu ndo alipanga basi utaipata ndoto yako regardless of your age! Usiache watu wenye ‘roho za kwanini’ wakukatishe tamaa! Hii dunia ya leo where people like Diana Rose at age of 70 amebeba mimba kwaajili ya kumtimizia mwanae ndoto ya kuwa na mtoto! watu kama Janeth Jackson at ago of 50 amebeba mimba! Sasa wewe unanini ukate tamaa! Vera wang ali designe nguo yake ya kwanza at age of 40! Steve Harvey achieved his dream (TV show) at age of 39! Tyler Perry from homeless at age of 27+ to millionaire at age at age of 43!…….You go AY! Good job!
After sharing a guest-post on step-parenting from the step-child’s point of view, one commenter asked an interesting question: “Should a man with no kids be hesitant to date a woman with kids?” 
First, whether a man has children of his own or not, there is nothing wrong with preferring to date women without children. We are all free to make up whatever dating preferences we want. They are called personal preferences for a reason and we don’t need the approval of anyone else when it comes to what we like. However, there are a few things childless men should keep in mind when deciding whether they are ready to date a woman with a child, or children. Women, would you agree on the following?
Figure out if you like or want kids BEFORE dating a woman with children.
When you are single and looking to mingle, you generally will not hurt anyone if you start dating “just to see where things go.” Plenty of men do this all the time. But when deciding to date a woman with a child, you should be clear about Straigectations for the relationship upfront with yourself and her. In other words, if you’re still in the “dating just to date” phase of your life, involving a woman with a child is probably not the type of relationship you should engage in because your actions will more than likely impact the lives of two people — the woman and the child. While the age of the child plays a factor, if you’re not looking for anything serious, you shouldn’t play the “I’ll figure it out” game with a ready-made family.
Further, if you’re not a kid person or don’t want kids, you should not date a woman with kids to see if you’ll change your mind. This is not a video game that you can turn off when you decide you do not like how the game is playing out. That is a personal decision you should figure out long before you involve a woman and her child in your life. Save the games for the rest of the single people in the world who do not have the responsibility of looking out for the emotional well-being of themselves and their child.
Do you want kids of your own?: I’m always surprised at how few people discuss this topic upfront. Some women with children do not want any more kids, and this is an awkward conversation to have after you have already exchanged “I love yous” or “I dos.” If you want one or two kids and she already has one or two kids, this is a conversation you should have sooner rather than later. In addition, if you do not want any (biological) kids of your own, do not assume that just because she has one or more child from a previous relationship that she does not want anymore with you.
You are not in first place: As a continuation of the above point, one of the hardest changes for many single men who decide to date a woman with a child is realizing they are not in first place. In general, the needs of the children come first. This is a hard adjustment for many men to make because when you’re single and don’t have any kids, you can be as selfish as you want. People with children are used to (hopefully) putting the needs of their children before their own. I have friends who have gotten upset because a woman they are dating has to drop everything for their child. This makes not one iota of sense. A woman should not be placed in a position to choose between the child she loves and the man she likes. If you don’t understand that, then you aren’t ready for this type of relationship and it is best if you do not bother wasting her time or yours.
How is the relationship with her baby’s father?
I’ve written on whether you need the baby’s father approval before — and for the record, no you do not. But while the relationship with the father of the woman’s child should not dictate your relationship, their relationship –- whether good or bad –- will play a role in your lives. It’s important to know what you are getting yourself into. Before your relationship gets serious, you should know what role, if any, the baby’s father has in the child’s life, and what type of relationship the two parents have with one another. Contrary to popular belief — and Lifetime movies — not every woman with a child is looking for a second parent if the biological parent is actively involved in the child’s life and doing a good, low-drama job of co-parenting. An honest conversation about this should minimize the chances of you making a surprise cameo on a VH1 reality show.
Source: madamenoire.com
What a priceless genuine smile! I wish Maria could frame this picture! Too cute!…………Happy African Child Day to all Africans! Let us protect our children from all types of harm and danger
Lovely!
Natural look on fleek?? pendeza sana mdogo wake na mimi!……… Nimekufananisha na First lady Janeth Magufuli! Too cute!……. Mke wa mtu huyu heshima muhimu!
Thressa!!! Congratulation my darling, you did it, so proud of you little girl! Very well deserved and best wishes on your next adventure! I’m happy to share the excitement of your graduation day in my blog!
Graduation day for my genius princess; 3 medals in Math, Science and Reading and a trophy. Thank you Jesus for brains! #itrunsinthefamily #brainpower #shegotitfromhermother #elementarydonewithmiddleschoolherewecome.
Congratulation mommy Thressa, for raising such a brave, smart girl! Indeed, To God be the glory! I’m happy for both of your. May God keep blessing you and use her to make the world a better place for others! Bravo! ………. My dear readers, Thressa is a daughter of my fellow African diaspora from Lusaka, Zambia as well as my former church members at Trinity SDA churh in Kalamazoo, Michigan. Thressa is a very dear friend to my darling daughter Mercy! Yesterday she finished her elementary studies now heading to middle school! She received 3 metals as you can read from her mother above! 
The pictures above is Thressa with her teachers! 
Once again, congratulations Thressa, live long to conquer the whole world!???
Dunia ya sasa ni ngumu sana kuamini watu baki au hata ndugu. Watu wenye roho za “kwanini” ni wengi mno! Na huwezi wajua mpaka upige hatua moja mbele yao ndio utajua kama kweli ulikuwa na marafiki au maadui! Utajua kama huyu ndugu anafaa kukaa karibu yangu au tuwe tunawasiliana kwa “remote control”! 
Mrs Obama said it well!!…….Ukiona ndugu au rafiki yako hawezi ku-appreciate au kufurahia maendeleo yawengine; basi jua wewe hapo ulipo hamna ulicho mzidi ndomaana anakupenda!! Na siku ukapiga hatua moja mbele basi atakusema, atakusengenya, na kukujengea majungu ya kila aina kama anavyo fanya kwa wengine! Kama una rafiki au ndugu wa namna hiyo MUOGOPE KAMA UKOMA!!Kaa mbali na watu wasiopenda na kufurahiya maendeleo ya wengine! Hao ni maMbwa Mwitu waliovaa ngozi ya Kondoo!! Kuna ndugu na marafiki wakweli ambao wao mwingine akifanikiwa ndio furaha yao. Ila ni wachache sanaaaaaa! Omba Mungu akupe watu namna hiyo kama bado hauna hata mmoja! Just choose your friends wisely!!
Kihoja cha mwaka! Usikuzi wa kuamkia jana kwenye Facebook account ya my sister nikaona amepost picha mbili za kijana fulani wa kiume ☝Nikajiuliza ni nani maana sura yake ni mpya kabisa machoni pangu………sasa kuangalia vizuri naona kuna one of our family friends ame comment kuwa “hongera kwa kukuza mdogo wa mie”! (Tazama hapo ?) 
Mmh! Kitu cha kwanza nikajiuliza kichwani mwangu is; does my brother in law fathering a child somewhere, so by my sister posting his pictures is like her own way of accepting the situation? ?? mwe!….. basi nikasema ngoja nimuulize kwenye watsup yake. Eeh! Nisikute profile picture ya watsup ni ya huyu kijani ?? nikamuuliza my sister huyo ni nani? Mpaka leo asubuhi alikuwa hajanijibu ?? nikaamua kumuuluza mdogo wangu kama anamjua (tazama ?) 
Kamata mwizi!! Huyu jamaa Kaiba simu halafu akili hana hata za kubadilisha number kabla hajatumia ?? anaanza kubadilisha picha wakati simu kaiba?! Mwe!!……kajisemea mdogo wangu kuwa wezi wa Geita siyo kama wa Daslam, IQ=zero!??? anyway my sister kanunua simu, na shemeji yangu anamfatilia huyu kijana kwa kutumia police. But it’s so funny!! Inaelekea huyu ndo mara yake ya kwanza kuiba na hajawahi kuwa na smartphone ???
???? how true!……too many fake people nowadays! Yani ‘fakelicous’ people wapo katika level zote za maisha!……. ushawahi kuona wale watu ambao kila siku ukikutana nao au wao tu ndo kila siku for some annoying reasons hawana number yako ya simu halafu wewe you still have their number sijui for how many yrs? Yani mie nikishakupatia number yangu twice halafu tunakutana tena unasema huna number yangu?! Just forget about me! Kwani sitokaa nikupe tena my phone number as it’s clearly we ain’t suppose to communicate!! Navile huwa si mpenzi wa kuongeza kwenye simu basi unakuwa umenipunguzia mzigo! Maana I will delete your number the minute I am done talking to you!. …anyway we are living in a generation of “fake busy” and fake everything! Watu wana fake hata kumpenda Mungu ??
Bella, Mrs Twaakyondo kama kawaida yake, kapendeza sana! Natural look yanguvu!
Kwakweli mimi huwa napenda and I admire a lot wadada ambao wanaweza kupendeza with very minimal or no makeups at all! Kuna wengine lazima tupake makeup kwani chunusi zimeharibu ngozi zetu, lakini nafikiri ku-over do makeup siyo powa kabisa! Kama unaweza ku-maintain your natural look then do so please! Kwani hiyo inaonyesha kuwa una confidence of who you are, unajikubali, na kujithamini!
Too much makeup and accessories kwa mwanamke yeyote yule (educated or none educated, rich or poor) inaonyesha lack of confidence, insecurities, plus demanding for attention! Pia kwa wale waliosomea mambo ya communications basi utakuwa umejifunza kitu kinaitwa ‘noise’. Mtu unavyo vaa na kujiremba inaweza ikawa kama “noise pollution” kwa wengine kwani wataacha ku-consecrate na wewe as individual or your msg na akili zao zote zikawa kwenye mavazi yako au mapambo yako. Sasa hapo ndipo unapoweza send a very wrong msg kwa wengine haswa wale wenye ‘judgemental’ mind set! Mimi binafsi my brain doesn’t function properly kwenye nyumba yenye too much bright / crazy colors. Yani huwa napata headache kabisa, na huwa nasema kwa wahusika. Sema huku Marekani watu wanaelewa ingekuwa Bongo ndo unasikia watu wanasema “anaringa sana” ??
Anyway, Bella kapendeza sana!….. Soma post za nyuma kuhusu Bella kwa kubonyeza ?
OUR FUTURE IS DETERMINED BY OUR ACTIONS OF TODAY: Do not lose the value of the moment whilst foolishly focusing on tomorrow.
Most of us are busy chasing after tomorrow whilst disregarding today. Tomorrow is like a seed and we have to understand that inorder to preserve our future, there are certain actions that we have to be willing to do TODAY. Remember the story of the woman with the issue of blood (Mark 5 vs 27-28)? In order for her to preserve her future she had to be willing to crawl and touch the garment of Jesus (at that moment). Her journey started from behind the crowd. She was behind but she was not discouraged by her placement. She was confronted with a crowd of people who were all trying to get to the same Jesus she wanted to get to. The traditions of this woman’s society required a woman with an issue of blood to stay indoors because she was ‘unclean’. After waiting for twelve years and hiding in the shadows, using all her money on doctors, she probably said to herself, ‘enough is enough. I am tired of pain and shame.’ She set her own agenda for change and began a process that totally transformed her life. We all may be having a lot of issues that we are facing TODAY which may be a hinderance to our future but let us ask God to give us the courage to pay attention to the moment and face our problems in the presence of God so that He can preserve our FUTURE. There are several issue’s that may be affecting us, issues of hatred, confusion, addiction, rejection, frustration, jealous, pride, selfishness, and so much more, But what we have to understand is that to preserve our future we have to first be willing to get rid of the issues hindering our TODAY. We have to understand that whist we choose to remain stuck in our current issues, we are potentially threatening our future.
Although this woman with the issue of blood was weak in strength, because when you bleed you become anaemic, lack of oxygen, She did not make excuses. Our Issues need to be dealt with is a heist for the benefit of our FUTURE. Alone we can not do it ,let us seek enlightenment from God in His presence through prayer and meditation of the word.
She preserved her future by overcoming:
1. Long-term disappointment
2. Physical weakness
3. Personal embarrassment
4. Society’s rejection
5. Physical barriers: the crowd of people 
Prayer: Dear Lord, please help me to press through all obstacles until I am in connection with your power.
The status of a woman is different around the world. There are countries and places where men do not respect women at all. The sad thing is that a mother who knows how it feels when no one respects you raises a son who, in turn, offenses other women, including his mom.
That is why feminism is so popular these days. Feminism is not about hating men. It is about respecting every woman no matter her age, race, nationality or religion. If you have a son and want him to grow up to be a real gentleman, check out the following six ways to raise a son who will respect women.
Your son should know that a woman has the right be as successful as a man. She has goals and enough power to reach them. You do not have to be a wealthy businesswoman to share your achievements with your son. You are already a successful mother so let your son know it as often as possible.
Talk about other successful women from different parts of the world so that your son knows that race or religion does not matter. Plus, let him know that every woman has the right to choose her lifestyle – some strive to reach high career goals while other prefer to be stay-at-home moms.
Whether you are married or divorced, never talk bad about your son’s father. Your son should realize that women respect men too. Try to avoid fighting when your child is home. If your (ex) husband does not respect you and you can do nothing about it, it does not mean you should hate him too. Remember, you are a role model to your son. Let it be. When he grows up, he will understand that his dad was not right.
Maybe not each day, but once in a while, it is crucial that you and your son talk about the women’s right openly. Start with the history. He should know how women struggled for gender equality in the 20s, and if you have a teen son, how many women are suffering from rape and abuse.
These topics are not the most interesting ones, but discussing them regularly will help you raise a son who will respect women regardless of anything. But make sure your son does not feel guilty for being male. Let him know that some men suffer from gender equality as well.
I know you love your son and want to make him smile and happy every second, but pursuing his whims is a surefire way to raise a son who will be sure that women must do anything to satisfy men’s whims and needs. No way. Know when to say no, ignoring whining and tears.
You may hate the way your female coworker dresses on the daily basis, or you may not like your husband’s mom, sister or aunt. It is your problem. Your son should not hear how you judge them. Otherwise, he may think that some women are good while others do not deserve to be respected. Keep your emotions under control, at least when your son is around.
Mothers rarely ask their sons to help them with cooking, cleaning, and other household chores, especially if they have daughters. You and your husband should set an example and show your son that a man and a woman are equal when it comes to household chores and tasks. If you have a daughter and a son, make sure you do not serve your son or your daughter. Get them both involved in household chores. 
Source: Womanitely
While God created you as a complete being unto yourself, He also created man to be your partner, the one who brings out the very best of you. That’s not the same as needing a man to complete you. God intends for us to bring out the best versions of each other. Your husband is your partner in purpose. He’s the person God put on your team, and the two of you are supposed to hold each other accountable, hold up a mirror to each other, be each other’s cheerleader, and help each other accomplish your individual and collective purposes. #TheWait 
Wow! What a powerful msg! You are a real Komandoo! The Queen! The Shero! The living Legend! Happy birthday to you. Wishing you the best in everything you do!
Jamani wamependezaje!! Mama Kimati na binti yake Mrs Nyongo katika ubora wao ndani ya jiji la Sydney, Australia. Mama Kimati yupo huko kwasasa akimtembelea binti yake……… wamependeza, wanavutia sana! Mbarikiwe sana ❤❤❤
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