nimependa hii picha toka Facebook.  My neighbor, daughter of Kenyatta ? looking great, love it!

“We have been miseducated about gift-giving. We believe gifts must always bear a price tag or be given for a particular reason. The real joy in giving comes when we give what we have spontaneously, with no reason other than for the joy of giving.” Iyanla Vanzant  Watu wengi naona wanafikiria zawadi ni lazima iwe pesa au kitu fulani ambacho thamani yake inaweza onekana au kujulikana na watu wengi. Hayo mawazo yapo sana kwetu sisi ambao tunatoka Africa. Tunadhamini sana material things na kuonyesha umuhimu kidogo sana kwenye vitu ambavyo wengine hawawezi kuviona.

Zawadi ni kitu chochote kile mtu anakupa na inaweza ikawa katika mfumo wa pesa, vitu halisi, kukusaidia kimawazo, au kuchukua muda wake kwa ajili yako. Kwa mfano, nilisikiaga mtu anasema “yani amekuja kunisalimia mikono mitupu.”! Sasa unajiuliza hivi huyu mtu kaacha kazi zake na mambo yake kuja kuuona; wewe uwoni thamani ya muda wake, kama alipanda daladala inamaana alilipa nauli, na mambo yote ambayo ilibidi afanye au aache kufanya ili aje kukuona? Wenzetu wanasema “time is money”! kama mtu siyo mpenzi wako au ndugu yako wa karibu sana ambaye utakua free kumwambia akuletee zawadi basi hunabudi kushukuru mtu anapochukua muda wake kukujali kwani inaweza isiwe na thamani kwako wewe lakini kwake yeye is what all he / she has na akaamua ku-share na wewe!

Kikubwa katika utoaji  wa zawadi niitoke moyoni kwa dhati. Itafakari, je imetoka moyoni au ni mtu anatoa ili kukufurahisha wewe na wanao kuzunguka! Au mtu anakupa zawadi ili kuficha kitu fulani kwenye macho ya watu. Umeshaona yule mume anaye mjengea mke nyumba nzuri sana, anamnunulia gari la gharama kubwa, na kumvalisha nguo na mapambo ya thamani. Watu waliopo nje wakiona wanasema maisha si ndo yale, fulani anabahati sana. Kumbe laiti wangelijua kuwa humo ndani hakuliki, hakukaliki, wala hakulaliki!

Nachotaka kusema hapa ni kuwa, kama zawadi haitoki moyo kwa mtoaji basi hata kama utaipenda na kufurahiya kwa wakati huo mwishoni lazima utalipa gharama yake. Je unajua gharama utakayo lipa? Masimango, manyanyaso yasiyoisha, kila mtu atahitajika kujua kuwa yeye ndio aliyekupa, atataka amiliki maisha yako kwani alikupa zawadi bure, na mambo mengine kama hayo. Tujifunze kuthamini zawadi zote kwani zawadi si lazima iwe pesa!

Mr and Mrs Mali doing what they always do best, BBQ! At their home, Atlanta, Georgia. ……. Lovely couple

Once a loser always a loser!! ☝ The two biggest losers of all time! Hivi mnawajua hawa wanaume kama mabinti! Nimesema “mabinti” na si “wanawake” kwani wanawake tunajitambua na tunajua kutunza heshima zetu kwa kuchuja yanayo toka vinywani mwetu! Wanawake tuna makwetu tunalipa bili zetu hata kama hatujaolea. Sio hawa wakina “Yahaya” wa kizazi kipya ambao wanamajina makubwa mjini lakini wanapoishi hapajulikani!! Kutwa kuranda randa kwenye nyumba za watu!!

I feel sorry for you Gardner Habash as it seems to be very painful to be a loser, right?!! But guess what?? that has been your role for the past 15 yrs!!  it just hurts more right now because you’ve just realized YOU ARE THE BIGGEST LOSER OF ALL TIME! And the best you can do is kuongea ovyo kama mtu mwenye kuumwa tumbo! Shame on you!!!

You found a woman who loved you sincerely, gave you a chance to better yourself and all you can do is kuendekeza ulevi, ngono, abused her physically and emotionally? Hukujua Jide ni mwanamke toka mkoa wa Mara. We don’t know how to BABYSIT LOSERS! And who wants to babysit a grown-up man?! Only women who are losers can do that!!…..go find a loser woman akufichie aibu yako!

You can’t beat Lady Jay Dee! Winner will always be a winner!! That’s why she is up there, and you’re down there hanging out with your fellow losers!!! Shame on you all!! My sister Lady Jay Dee, hiyo ☝ ni Status uliandika miaka miwili iliyopita wakati huyu Loser ameanza kuongea ovyo. I hope you are still strong enough to keep ignoring this former loser man of yours!…. stay strong, sorround yourself with love all the time. Pole sana.

Leo nimependa hii picha ya familia ya Evans Mashimi toka Georgia…… kwa wale msio jua ngoja ni ‘wanong’ozee’ basi, Mrs Mashimi a.k.a Teddy Sakaya ni shangazi yake mwanangu mimi ?? she is the only living aunt, walikuwa two aunties but shangazi mkubwa yeye alitangulia mbele ya haki miaka zaidi ya 5 iliyopita. …….. mbarikiwe sana the Mashimis’ ❤❤❤

A lady in a faded grey dress and her husband, dressed in a home-spun suit walked in timidly without an appointment into the Harvard University President’s outer office.

The Secretary could tell in a moment that such backwoods, country hicks had no business at Harvard and probably didn’t even deserve to be in Harvard.

“We want to see the President “the man said softly.

“He’ll be busy all day, “the secretary snapped.

“We’ll wait”, the lady replied.

For hours the Secretary ignored them, hoping that the couple would finally become discouraged and go away. They didn’t and the secretary grew frustrated and finally decided to disturb the President..

“Maybe if you see them for a few minutes, they’ll leave”, she said to him. The President, stern faced and with dignity, strutted toward the couple.

The lady told him, “We had a son who attended Harvard for one year. He loved Harvard. He was happy here. But about a year ago, he was accidentally killed. My husband and I would like to erect a memorial to him, somewhere on this campus”.

The President wasn’t touched…He was shocked. “Madam “he said, gruffly, ” we can’t put up a statue for every person who attended Harvard and died. If we did, this place would look like a cemetery !”

“Oh no,” the lady explained quickly” We don’t want to erect a statue. We thought we would like to give a building to Harvard”.

The President rolled his eyes. He glanced at the gingham dress and homespun suit, and then exclaimed, “A building ! Do you have any earthly idea how much a building costs ? We have over seven and a half million dollars in the physical buildings here at Harvard”.

For a moment the lady was silent. The President was pleased. Maybe he could get rid of them now. The lady turned to her husband and said quietly, “Is that all it costs to start a University ? Why don’t we just start our own ?”

Her husband nodded. The President’s face wilted in confusion and bewilderment.

Mr. and Mrs. Leland Stanford got up and walked away, traveling to Palo Alto, California where they established the University that bears their name…Stanford University, a memorial to a son that Harvard no longer cared about.

Most of the time we judge people by their outer appearance, which can be misleading. And in this impression, we tend to treat people badly by thinking they can do nothing for us. Thus we tend to lose our potential good friends, employees or customers.

In our life, we seldom get people with whom we want to share & grow our thought process. But because of our inner EGO we miss them forever !

Sarah my darling, you made me wept! I am sure your parents  will do the same too, oh! no-no, mommy Betty will definitely  cry! I am so-so-so proud of you Sarah. Looking back just few years ago, seeing the woman you have become, and all the academic achivement you have received! All I can say Hallelujah, to God be all the glory great things He has done! You are THE UNSHAKABLE! You survived big storm in a such tender age;  I’m sure there’s nothing on this planet that will be strong enough to shake your soul, strengths, and self esteem! Just keep God on board all the time and you’ll be just fine! Amazing! Wishing you the best of all in every thing you do. May God grant you the power of ‘Midas touch’, brighten your future, and strengthen your spirit to depend only on Him cause He’s able!….. May you have wonderful stay and studies at Western Michigan University. Keep Rev. Udongo and mommy Betty proud, of course  we will always be proud of you! My dear readers, for those who don’t know Sarah…… she’s a daughter to my friends Rev. Albert Udongo and Betty Udongo, and best friend to my daughter Mercy. They are from Uganda, but her mom graduated from University of Dar es salaam, Tanzania which keep them close to many Tanzanians especially those who live or used to live in Michigan and Illinois. Sarah is a graduate from Loy Norrix High school of Kalamazoo,  Michigan. Due to her Academic performance she received multiple college scholarships but she has chosen to go to Western Michigan University in Kalamazoo, Michigan. She will start her college studies this coming Fall semester…… Wishing her the best! May 7th was High school Prom day at their school….and here is Sarah and her date Josh….. Enjoy the pictures. ….makeup was done by my lovely daughter Mercy ❤❤❤  I love everything on you Sarah, you both looking greatYou young ladies are awesome! My darling daughter Mercy, I thought I know your strengths and limitations but you keep amazing me! Love you girl! God keep blessing you all…… From left is Bethel Mwenza, Sarah Udongo, and Mercy Sakaya. Sarah and her elder brother, Deo (first born) whom as well is Western Michigan University Alumni. Deo, Sarah, and Sarah’s sister in law,  the very newly bride, Asha!….. forgive me my love ones for missing your wedding reception, there was time conflict between your reception and Rose’s graduation. But my prayers will always be with you and wishing you the best marriage.  Sarah you are so pretty!……Just keep your head up, God gives His hardest  battles to His strongest soldiers! let always your morals guide you in every life decision you make, listen to your instinct, and never forget your roots! and keep that smile alive, always, all the time My stomach aches knowing this group will soon fall apart!! But in life in order to grow we have to accept changes. I believe the bond is strong enough to survive the long distance friendship. Kalamazoo will always be home for us. And you guys are more than welcome to visit us anytime! Sarah, once again, Congratulations! We are all very proud of you ❤❤❤

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“FLASHBACK: This was Jully 31st 1994 on my 22nd birthday. In Sinza Dare-SA-Salam Tanzania. My first born was 2 months old Princess Leyla Makongoro Bezuidenhout. It was my first birthday Ever to celebrate as a mother. My father was feeding his granddaughter. Leyla brought happiness to our family from the day she was born. MAY THE 9th 1994. She was named by my late mother LEYLA. When I was a month pregnant. The moment we didcovered I was pregnant, She told me it will be a girl and call her LEYLA. My mother died when I was 5 moths pregnant of Leyla she never got to see her. So my father played both GRANDFATHER AND GRANDMOTHER. On Monday May 9th LEYLA WILL BE 22 years old the same age I was on the photo back in 1994. days go so fast”! Happy 22nd birthday Lelya. You are such a strong, beautiful young lady with a lot of ambitions. Don’t let those negative and toxic people rent space in your brain and heart for a cheap check! Raise the rent and chest them out! Stay strong and focus! Happy 22nd gorgeous, be blessed!

●Don’t shout at your wife when you are talking. It really hurts her. (Proverbs 15:1)

●Do not speak evil of her to anyone. Your wife will become who you call her. (Gen. 2:19)

●Do not share her love or affection with another woman. It is called Adultery. (Matt. 5:28)

●Never compare your wife to another woman. If the other woman was good for you, God would have given her to you. (2 Cor. 10:12)

●Don’t ever allow her to beg you for sex. She owns your body just as you own her body. (1 Cor. 7:5)

●Be gentle and accommodating. She has sacrificed so much to be with you. It hurts her deeply when you are hash and irritating. Be tender. (Eph. 4:2)

●Hide nothing from her. You are now one and she’s your helpmeet. Let there be no secret you are keeping from her. (Gen. 2:25)

●Do not make negative comment about her body. She risked her life and beauty to carry your babies. She is a living soul not just flesh and blood.

●Do not let her body determine her worth. Cherish and appreciate her even till old age. (Eph. 5:29)

●Never shout at her in the public and in private. If you have an issue to sort with her, do it in the privacy of your room. (Matt. 1:19)

●Thank and appreciate her for taking good care of you, the kids and the house. It is a great sacrifice she is making. (1 The 5:18)

●All women cannot cook the same way; appreciate your wife’s food. It is not easy to cook every day, 365 days a year for several years. (Pro. 31:14)

●Never place your siblings before her. She is your wife. She is one with you. She must come before your family. (Gen. 2:24)

●Invest seriously in her spiritual growth. Buy books, tapes and any material that will edify her and strengthen her walk with God. That’s the best thing you can do for her. (Eph. 5:26)

●Spend time with her to do Bible study and pray. (James 5:16)

●Make time to play with her and enjoy her company. Remember when you are dead, she’s gonna be by your grave but your friends may be too busy to attend your funeral. (Ecc. 9:9)

●Never use money to manipulate or control her. All your money belongs to her. She is a joint heir with you of the grace of God. (1 Pet. 3:7)

●Do not expose her weakness. You will be exposing yourself too. Be a shield around her. (Eph. 5:30)

●Honour her parents and be kind to her siblings. (SOS 8:2)

●Never cease to tell her how much you love her all the days of her life. Women are never tired of hearing that. (Eph. 5:25)

●Grow to be like Jesus. That’s the only way you can be a good and godly husband. (Rom. 8:29)

“HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY 08/05/2016”

Source: one of THC members

To all the moms out there, Happy Mother’s Day! I will always be grateful to my mom for instilling in me a sense that I could do anything if I worked for it – even become the President of the United States. Doing right by our kids is the most important work there is. That’s why I want to take a little extra time to say thank you to Michelle and to her mother for the extraordinary and selfless way they have raised, looked after, and loved our girls.  I’m lucky to have lived my life surrounded by such remarkable women. To whomever that person is in your life, be sure to say thanks. Say I love you. And let’s make sure we show that gratitude and appreciation throughout the year. Because no one deserves thanks more than our moms.

Kuna siku nilichelewa kurudi nyumbani!dingi akanikata stick nyingi sana akaniambia hakuna kula mchana!mtembezi hula miguu yake,afu mama ndio alikua anaepua maharage jikono na kitu cha wali kilikua tayari chini kinanukia hatari!!haya bna nikaenda kulala kwa huzuni kubwaaa sana huku tumbo likinguruma kwa njaa!!watu wakala wakamaliza mk nikajipitisha ili hata mzee anionee huruma nile lakini wap!!Nikashangaa mama ananiita kwa Hasira,We kuja hapa Pumbavu wewe Chukua hyo ndoo hapo uende ukachote maji!!nikazidi kuumia kuona mama nae ananipa kazi na njaa yote ile!!basi nikasepa kinyonge nikiwa njiani nikahisi kwenye ndoo kuna kitu kufungua hivi nakutana na bakuli kubwa limejaa Waliiiiii ?????? kwanza nililia kidogo kwa furaha than nikaula fasta?? Happy mama’s day

Source: one of THC members

Wishing you a very blessed and happy Mother’s Day today. May you spend this day reflecting on how great is our GOD who gave you this great title. He said in Isaiah 66:13 “As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.” …… So you are a great Mother not because of your effort and hard work. It is because He EMPOWERS you. Hope that you continue to receive all the blessings from above

Wow! Asante sana Mrs Nyongo! Indeed, I am powerless and nothing without Him! Ubarikiwe sana mke mwema, and Happy Mother’s Day to you, mama Kimati, and Mama Nyongo ❤❤ ❤

My rock forever and always. God keep on watching over this amazing lady for us. Happy mother’s day

Wow! Mtani wangu what a TBS ya mama yetu! Priceles! Happy Mother’s Day mama yake na mtani wangu. Ubarikiwe sana.

Mtoto wa mwenzio ni wako! And it takes a village to raise a child! …….Happy Mother’s Day da ShyRose Bhanji, ubarikiwe sanaaaaaa! ❤❤❤

Sina la kusema mama yangu mkubwa kwani hakuna zaidi ya Asante mama. Nakupenda sana 1st born wa marehemu bibi yangu Valeria Awiti,  mlezi wa mama yangu wakati akisoma secondary Rugambwa. Mlezi wangu mimi nilipokuwa nasoma Kowak Girls Secondary school.  Asante sana Bi Mkubwa, nakupenda sana! Happy Mother’s Day to you!

Malkia wangu wa nguvu.Happy Mother’s Day